My name is Nic and I am a local NYC artist, doula & ‘student-of-life’ with an interest in cracking open the conversation and cultural relationship around Death and the Dying process for the betterment of the greater community around me.
I grew up as a queer man in the south from a large, blended family of 12, and I find Life (particularly people) absolutely fascinating. I went on to study human behavior & storytelling through the art of theatre where my natural curiosity for people and love of the human condition served me in understanding Life through a perspective I can only describe as ‘sacred’. Blessings, curses, pains, joys, expressions and uncertainties: the journey of Life is wild. I began to open my heart and ears freely to anyone who needed: old, young, the seemingly scary, my closest loved ones and complete strangers. Understanding human nature and engaging in the practice of Life became my joy. As a student of Life, I became (just a little) obsessive with what, if anything, connects all of us human beings together in this unique experience of Life. During a beautiful moment of stillness and isolation, in a global pandemic, and with a blinding flash of the obvious, the answer became quite clear:
In an instant my entire world was flipped upside down. The rigorous student in my had finally found something worth studying deeply and intimately, something worth ‘professing’:
Death: THE SINGLE UNIFYING EXPERIENCE THAT EVERY LIVING BEING: PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE, WILL SOMEDAY COME TO KNOW. So simple, so obvious, so worthy of discussing, and yet nobody, at least in my corner of the world (and especially my country) was talking about it. At all. In fact, some people would do anything to not talk about it. I began to understand that people were simply scared to go there. So here I am, willing & able.
I get it – Death is complicated, absurd, icky & often scary. I am here as a ‘brave’ space for you to be fully present with any of your anxieties, questions and curiosities. I will walk alongside you as we journey into the unknown, and together we’ll support you in gaining greater clarity with your relationship with Death & Dying.
Thank you so much for visiting the site, and if I can ever be of service to you – never hesitate to reach out!
The most impactful death of my Life thus far is my grandmother's.
- Dorothy 'Dot' Wynne died swiftly in a car accident, November of 2019. My Grandfather, on the other hand, experienced a decade long struggle with Parkinson's, but my Grandmother was by his side every night until the day he died. Her swift departure came with a strange peace: a beauty in knowing there was no time to worry, or stress on anybody taking care of her the same way she dutifully tended to my grandfather - She would've hated that...
“You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.”
- Swami Vivekananda
"We all become important when we realize our goal//
Should be to figure out our role within the context of the whole
And yeah, rock and roll is fun, but if you ever hear someone//
Say you are huge, look at the moon, look at the stars, look at the sun
Look at the ocean, and the desert, and the mountains, and the sky//
Say I am just a speck of dust inside a giant's eye."
- Kimya Dawson